The easiest step is to look for someone standing on their own and ask if you can join them. After all, solitude isn’t usually on people’s agenda when they go to a networking event.

I usually go up and just introduce myself and say something like I saw you standing on your own and I don’t know anyone here so I thought I’d come and say hello…

Or I’ll go to the bar, or tea/ coffee area and just make some random comment to someone who’s also there getting a drink -  it doesn’t really matter what you comment on as long as the other person can comment too – so it could something on the setting or venue tend to be good ones.

One thing you know you have in common with the other person is that you are both at that event. How they came to be there, who they know, who invited them or the benefit they get from attending are all conversation starters that are more likely to help you identify other interests you share and lead to a more productive discussion. Once you’ve done that initial bit – you’re in.

If you can’t find anyone on their own, check out people’s body language. Look at the groups and pairs around the room. Avoid those in deep in conversation and approach those who are  in groups with space between them.  Watch people’s eyes – are they making direct, intense eye contact or looking around the room?

Most importantly, show respect. I’m sure you wouldn’t, but don’t interrupt and introduce yourself. Wait for a natural break in the conversation, join in if appropriate or wait to be invited. If it feels as though you’d be interrupting a deep conversation, smile nicely and walk away. You can always reintroduce yourself later.